Friends. We all have them. Some of us have many friends. Some of us have just social media friends. Others only have a handful of friends that we truly interact with and feel close to. I am one of those that only has a handful of friends that I can call my real friends. When I was a kid, I was the same way. I had like one or two friends that I declared they were my true friends, my best friends. Unfortunately, after I graduated high school I lost touch with these people for sad reasons that I won’t get into, but still I had those two friends I depended on. Same thing happened when I went to college. Then. Then, I joined a sorority. Oy. I had more friends than I knew what to do with. As an introvert this messed me up.
But again, of the 30 lovely ladies of Tri Sigma, I was only friends with a handful of them. Ones that I went to homecoming parades with, ones that I invited over for Nintendo night in my dorm room with my ridiculously annoying roommate, or making sure they weren’t going to get attacked by the Gardner snakes on the side of the road during highway cleanup and various other things.
I loved being in a sorority. I knew at some point in the three years that I was active, I could ask any one of those girls do something and more likely someone would say yes.
But me being in a sorority and all the friends I made whilst being an active member of Sigma is definitely not what this post was about. I should do another post about my life in a sorority….maybe. Maybe not.
This post is about how to be a good friend or things that make a good friendship, not about my years in Tri-Sigma. Frankly, I really didn’t want to do this. I don’t know why I’m still typing this post. Maybe it’s something I need to do. Get things off my chest. *Sigh* I’m going to be brutally honest here. I was a horrible friend this year. Horrible.To the one person who has been by my side for 10 years. I regret it. It hurt so bad hearing songs that we often listened to while driving to and from places in college. Seeing the blanket being used by Chunky Monkey that she gave me for Turbo when he was a baby. Our mutual hate for Sheryl Crow and Uncle Kracker. BLEGH! We were on a break (oh Ross), for a while. A long while. It felt like forever. In reality it was only like 4 months. But to a girl and her feelings, that’s forever. FOREVER! But things are okay between this friend and myself now. I hope. I mean we’re talking, and doing things with each other again as long as our schedules allow us.
Anyway. Enough of that.
5 things that make a great friendship.
Someone who makes you smile, you can laugh when you do and enjoy each other’s company.
If you can’t make each other laugh or you can’t enjoy time with them, I think you’d need to ditch that friend. Seriously. There are times when I’m with my friends that we’re laughing and having a good time we lose track of time. That’s the way it should be with your friends or anyone really. They don’t have to be your friends, but you should definitely have a good time with your friends.
Someone who will love you because they choose to, not because they feel like they should.
I feel like I don’t really need to say anymore to this. I mean this should/can be applied to all types of relationships one is in.
They will accept you for who you are, even when you’re being a butt-head.
Let’s face it, there are times when we’re being butt-heads. I probably am more than anyone else but the people who are your friends are going to be there for you despite of you being the biggest butt head. But my friends are still around. At least I hope they are.
You must be able to trust them and they of you.
Honesty and trust comes gradually as a friendship grows. If a friend confides in you with something you need to be able to keep it to yourself and not boast it to other people.
Every relationship requires some sort of sacrifice that comes from both sides. Every relationship. Sacrifice is nothing but the ability to prioritize things on the basis of needs. A good friend will let go of something small in order to help his friend to achieve something big.
So there are some ideas/thoughts that I think make a good friendship.
Now, I leave you with some pictures of me and my friends. 🙂